Thanks, Hope and Lin. I keep thinking that as this goes along, maybe we need to make this legal. So far, the two of us are able to talk and trust - maybe stupidly so - but I think that after the holidays, things might get more complicated.
I tried asking H today if he thought we should do this, and he got tense. He says he promised to not do anything legal for a year and this question seemed a mixed message to him (a year will be in January, so that's when I think things might get complicated). So was asking a 180 or trouble? I don't know. I backed off, though, and I hope I was wise about that. We are going together in the next weeks to talk to a financial advisor about how to deal with our debt sitch; maybe there will be some more insight then...
We are working together and communicating better now that we are separated and in IC - and I think since I told him I agreed that our old M is over - than we have for years. I just hope that he will continue to not push for the D so that maybe we can weather this and begin to rebuild or build a new R & M.
The sun's shining, and even though it's cold, the day feels ok.
