It is good just to get things out there, and on paper, I try to keep a journal, because it can get some of this out, which then allows me to focus back on what I need to.
As you know everything takes time, and there is no set time frame, no 2 people are the same. I don't believe that things can be allowed to carry on indefinately without some discussion. But it comes down to a matter timing, and that is the most difficult, because you don't want to approach thing to soon, because it wount help, and you don't want to wait to long because you don't want them to think all is fine again. So you have wait for the right opening, and then approach things very carefully!
But you have had some positive steps forward, and so thats a good thing, just keep doing what your doing and see what happens. Please try to focus less on the past and more on you and your future.
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!