FLTC: from Iraq; Continued

[COG]

I think it's important to realize, that the things we go through make us who we are.

Those MC sessions with a WAS who dispises you, wants nothing to do with you, but is just going through the motions so that they can say they tried. The Retrouvaille, weekend retreats, books, etc. etc. We have to realize that all of those experiences happen for a reason.

As a LBS, it is so easy to rest comfortably in disbelief that our S's could leave us, the kids, everything for another life. What's wrong with them? How could another human being do this? Be alert my friends. Our WAS's have made it so EASY for us to blame them, that we forget how flawed we are also.

All those agonzing counseling sessions were meant for US! I stayed in denial, blaming my WAS, focusing on her shortcomings, her weaknesses, her failings, that I never took the time to look at myself. My sitch, my ice block of a WAS, began to change the day that I let her go and turned my focus onto ME!

God Bless the struggle!

COG