"And we also know we haven't done something appalling to our family."
Good point. I am not sure my H sees it that way, or if he ever will. I know he feels guilt or shame as he can't talk about what happened yet without showing it. I am not sure how he will get past that. He has moved a bit past the.. I just need to be me.. stage, where he justified or blamed me for everything. But the next step, I don't know.
