Your husband being in the military and in California you are eligible to part of his retirement. Don't sign anything without a lawyer, even with 6 years California will grant you a part of his 20 year retirement. Some states don't unless you have at least 10 years but California and a few other states are different. Your husband probably knows this and wants you to sign the paper hoping you are stupid enough to sign it. You also can get him in trouble for his affair.
This happened to my mother after 18 years of marriage so now his third wife gets that retirement!!! Not my mom because she signed that paper. my brother is a lawyer and thinks she should contest it based on limited English and have my Dad reverse it but not to let him know about the statute of limitations. Who knows? Ugh. Sorry to hear you cannot make it to Sonoma. You sound like you will do well and there is a lot of hope left so do not give up hope. That is one of the best things about DB is that it is like a science and it takes time but we are all better off knowing that it is a common and predictable pattern of human nature and most importantly that we are not alone.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
