With guys flirting with you, after such a short separation, that should give you a hint that there are a lot of us out here, some NOT weird or repulsive. Not that I have a super high opinion of myself, but I'm......normal! There's a lot of NORMAL people out there. If it doesn't work out with your H, then it will come your way again. Don't try too hard. That's always the kiss of death, and a relationship now just muddies the waters. I have a great email correspondance going on with a wonderful woman I work with. She knows my situation, and I'm sure she's interested in me, but I never cross the line in my correspondance. Friendly, upbeat, no romantic overtures at all. That may come, but not now. I think you have a love-hate thing going on with your husband, and most of have that with our WASs. We just want to go back to them, but I DON'T WANT the crazy lady who replaced the woman I loved, and I venture you don't want that old husband back either. I'm sorry, and I know you love your H. and he's the father of your kids, but I don't see you as losing that much from what you've described. As time goes on, your open wound will heal over with steely resolve, and you're not going to want that same old husband either.
Good job not calling him. This 23 year old thing WILL NOT stay with him. Take it to the bank. When the first 24 year old turns her head, she's gone! You hang in there! ARMY STRONG!