Tuesday: I work in Baltimore, but live 45 min north of the city. If anyone heard of that bad accident that shut down 1-95 that day, well, I got stuck in the mess trying to get home. For years, I have taken an aerobics class on Tues/Thurs nights. I called H on the way home, told him I was going to class if I made it home on time. He says, OW is betting you're not going to go. At first I thought, what biz is is of hers if I go or not? I didn't say that but instead asked. Why does think that? So I could just stay home and be with him. It took my over 2.5 hrs to get home that night. Had some nice chats with H along the way. Kept getting interrupted by her calls.
I finally walk in the door at 7:15 p.m. (left the office at 4:30!) and H is on phone with OW again. Since my aerobics class starts at 7, I'm obviously not going. I heard him say, yes, she just got home. Then, no she's not going, she just got home. He repeated that louder and louder and then stormed out into the garage where he was yelling at OW over the phone. My D and I just stood there looking dumbfounded at each other.
When his call is over with OW, he comes back in and apologizes. Explained that as soon as he told OW I was home, she pulled the "I told you so" line on him (WHICH HE HATES), "I told you she wasn't going tonight." Of course I wasn't going, I didn't make it home in time. So all the arguing and yelling was pretty much over me.
Wednesday night: H again gets several calls from OW. At least tonight they're not yelling at each other. H seems quiet. I asked him what's going on and he says, OW says she is leaving next week. She has called in sick to work for the past 3 days (but she is not sick). She spends her nights getting drunk, then is hung over the next morning.
On one hand I don't mind seeing her go. On the other, H is upset cause of the legal sitch. If she leaves she won't be around to testify for him if it comes to that. I told him she already talked to his lawyers, the police and the prosecutors so perhaps she wasn't needed.
But he's also worried if she skips town, she'll also wuss out on her medical bills from this accident, stick her family with them, then they'll come after us. Great. Then he asked me "are you sure you want to be married to me? You really need to think about it because we could get stuck in a financial mess over this. This was my F up. This is not only my or our financial future, but yours and Ds."
I have not answered him yet. I was thinking that that he was, in a way, saying he was staying with me. Gee, it's not the way I had pictured it happening.
As far as OW, it just blows my mind that she is just going to up and leave her home, family, and her kids. I think she's losing it, I really do.
I could go on here, but I know this is getting long. And the whole sitch is just overwhelming for me right now...
