A proper, successful, hard-working, stable, nice, sweet, responsible but emotionally distant and non-sexual wife will make him feel stifled, suffocated and un-alive.
Gosh Theo, when you put it that way, I can't stand her either (I mean in my case Joie - not yours!)
As usual, Theo makes a good point. I completely comprehend what you are saying. As far as what hobbies or activities I can take up that will help me live out my call to adventure ... still thinking about that. It definitely will not involve a motorcycle.
Some interesting things have occurred in my sitch this week. But I will post later. I have a horrible sinus infection. Got me some good drugs from my doc tonight so hopefully I will be able to enjoy tomorrow.
Hey, that sounds cool!! Seriously. H may not be into that though. We used to go to NASCAR races together but that got complicated when the kid came along. You know what H wants to do? He's expressed interest in a nude beach. Is that adventurous enough?
LO. Hope I don't rain in your parade but I did not get good feedback from the ones that went to a nudity beach.
Coming from a place where nudity is not that much anymore I wonder if there will be in the future dressed up beaches and dressed up online websites since all the mystery is gone with all of our assumed "freedom".
But anyway, I would let him have it. Believe from what I've heard H's appreciates their Ws more after that experience. I will not tell you why...
Hey, that sounds cool!! Seriously. H may not be into that though. We used to go to NASCAR races together but that got complicated when the kid came along. You know what H wants to do? He's expressed interest in a nude beach. Is that adventurous enough?
With the kids???
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
H, Not with the D! I would not do that!! I have a friend who has done the nude beach thing. Says there are entire families that do it (weird, I think). Also says it's no big deal. I'd do it. What the heck...
Tuesday: I work in Baltimore, but live 45 min north of the city. If anyone heard of that bad accident that shut down 1-95 that day, well, I got stuck in the mess trying to get home. For years, I have taken an aerobics class on Tues/Thurs nights. I called H on the way home, told him I was going to class if I made it home on time. He says, OW is betting you're not going to go. At first I thought, what biz is is of hers if I go or not? I didn't say that but instead asked. Why does think that? So I could just stay home and be with him. It took my over 2.5 hrs to get home that night. Had some nice chats with H along the way. Kept getting interrupted by her calls.
I finally walk in the door at 7:15 p.m. (left the office at 4:30!) and H is on phone with OW again. Since my aerobics class starts at 7, I'm obviously not going. I heard him say, yes, she just got home. Then, no she's not going, she just got home. He repeated that louder and louder and then stormed out into the garage where he was yelling at OW over the phone. My D and I just stood there looking dumbfounded at each other.
When his call is over with OW, he comes back in and apologizes. Explained that as soon as he told OW I was home, she pulled the "I told you so" line on him (WHICH HE HATES), "I told you she wasn't going tonight." Of course I wasn't going, I didn't make it home in time. So all the arguing and yelling was pretty much over me.
Wednesday night: H again gets several calls from OW. At least tonight they're not yelling at each other. H seems quiet. I asked him what's going on and he says, OW says she is leaving next week. She has called in sick to work for the past 3 days (but she is not sick). She spends her nights getting drunk, then is hung over the next morning.
On one hand I don't mind seeing her go. On the other, H is upset cause of the legal sitch. If she leaves she won't be around to testify for him if it comes to that. I told him she already talked to his lawyers, the police and the prosecutors so perhaps she wasn't needed.
But he's also worried if she skips town, she'll also wuss out on her medical bills from this accident, stick her family with them, then they'll come after us. Great. Then he asked me "are you sure you want to be married to me? You really need to think about it because we could get stuck in a financial mess over this. This was my F up. This is not only my or our financial future, but yours and Ds."
I have not answered him yet. I was thinking that that he was, in a way, saying he was staying with me. Gee, it's not the way I had pictured it happening.
As far as OW, it just blows my mind that she is just going to up and leave her home, family, and her kids. I think she's losing it, I really do.
I could go on here, but I know this is getting long. And the whole sitch is just overwhelming for me right now...
Hmmm, so she continues to unravel. I HATE when they talk to the OW in your home. Sounds like he's staying to me too. You always kind of hope for what I call "baby, I love you, I want you, I need you" but I've come to realize, " are you sure you still want to be married to me" is probably the most grandiose profession of love they can manage. (Hopefully just for now.) I can see how you would be overwhelmed but you're going to be OK. Seems like a positive turn.
