Fltc, Others have told me that their experiences with MCing with a resistent S were the worst memories of the entire breakup! I think it's best to just let them be if they are resistent, my W was and I just let it go. Who needs the all the BS they will lay on you because they are pissed at having to be there. It's just another thing to be blamed for. That said, I would highly recommend going to a Solution Focused Counsellor alone to work out plans for saving the M yourself. That could of some benefit.
