"If that OW was a true love to him, she would say go home and work
things out with your family"

Isn't that the darned truth???? Of course they are not true loves because they think of themselves first.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19