Something interesting jumped out at me today as I was reading someone's thread. It is how the WAS uses phone calls. My H calls my cell to talk to the Ds. D15 has her own cell that is always on when they are w/ me. Wonder why H calls my cell and not her cell. Sometimes he calls the house phone which I normally answer. I can't think of a time when he has called D's phone unless I tell him to. I would just think he would call the D's phone so he could have less contact w/ me. Cake eating I guess.
Fence sitting spouse leaving you some hope that s/he falls off on the hoped for side of the fence, or someone that is already on the wrong side and stringing up barbed wire across the tops of the fence-posts? Myself, I'd prefer Option A.
Hoping everyone gets through this difficult day as well as possible and sees the sun rise on a new day tomorrow.
Me:46 Her:40 Daughter:7 She Dropped Bomb:10/7/07 She Filed Papers w/State:10/30/07 I Left Home:11/11/07 I Moved Back In:11/13/07 My Outlook: I want nothing more than a future together and will do whatever it takes. Her Outlook: Been too long coming, I'm done.
Well, H and girls left for his mother's house about 10 minutes ago. They didn't give him any of the drama about me not going that I saw last night. I think they are walking on eggshells too. They won't share any of how they feel w/ their dad. He really has no idea how hard this is on them. H still hasn't told his parents. They are telling his family that I don't feel good today. Can't figure out if he won't tell them because he doesn't want to hear what they have to say, or because he may still want to work this out someday.
H sent me a text about an hour after they left. Something about his mother's oven that didn't make sense. I didn't even respond. Haven't heard anything since and they have now been gone for almost 4 hours. Did have messages from SIL (who I don't care for) calling to see if I was feeling ok. MIL also called to see if I wanted her to send a plate of food and to say she loves me. I don't want to call, because I don't want to lie to her about why I wasn't there. H needs to get a backbone.
I don't want to call, because I don't want to lie to her about why I wasn't there. H needs to get a backbone.
Sounds like your H isn't ready to face reality. Obviously your in-laws like you, so he's going to get a mouthful from them if he tells them all about what is going on (even if it is only his take on it all).
What are you doing this afternoon, other than laying low?
I don't want to call, because I don't want to lie to her about why I wasn't there. H needs to get a backbone.
Sounds like your H isn't ready to face reality. Obviously your in-laws like you, so he's going to get a mouthful from them if he tells them all about what is going on (even if it is only his take on it all).
What are you doing this afternoon, other than laying low?
Laying low is pretty much it. Did a little housework to keep busy. Spent to much time on here. (Not a good job of GAL today.) Read some DR. Took H's dog for a 2 mile walk. Glad I did that because I wasn't home when H and the girls got here, so it didn't look like I was sitting around waiting for them. I wasn't happy that they were gone so long without calling because H didn't even want to go.
Ds just told me I hurt grandma's feelings. I asked how they knew that and they said she said so. Apparently one of them told her I wasn't feeling good. H however told her I wasn't very happy with him lately. I asked if H said he wasn't happy with me, to which I was told no. His mom also said I didn't need to punish her. So right now I am POed beyond belief!!!
Right now H is upstairs napping in what was our bed. I guess the office is getting to him. I really need to pray the serenity prayer before he comes downstairs.
Ds just told me I hurt grandma's feelings. I asked how they knew that and they said she said so. Apparently one of them told her I wasn't feeling good. H however told her I wasn't very happy with him lately. I asked if H said he wasn't happy with me, to which I was told no. His mom also said I didn't need to punish her. So right now I am POed beyond belief!!!
Did you expect anything less? He's obviously afraid of what they're going to say if he admits he's the one that left. He sounds more like a child than a spouse, at least to me
Originally Posted By: lizzy
Right now H is upstairs napping in what was our bed. I guess the office is getting to him. I really need to pray the serenity prayer before he comes downstairs.
H hung around until 9:30. He didn't really engage much w/ me or Ds. After his nap he sat in the living room and read the paper. When he came into the family room w/ us he was on the computer checking out his fantasy football teams.
Told the girls before he left that he might see them tomorrow. He has the day off so I don't know what he plans on doing. He mentioned shooting with his brother the other day. I can't tell you how many times he asked if I was going shopping tomorrow. I have never gone out on Black Friday and I don't plan to now. Kept telling him that and he kept asking.
Before he left I asked if I'm in trouble w/ his mom because the girls mentioned I hurt her feelings. He said she would have rather had me there than him. Also denied saying to his mom that I haven't been very happy with him lately. I guess I'll have to wait till I talk to MIL and see how she acts.
I am waiting to see how much we see or hear from H today. (I'm worried that my asking about what he said to his mom will set us back some.) H is off work and the girls and I are off of school. I should probably take them somewhere today for the sake of GAL. I'm sure the movies will be swamped and I don't feel like fighting the crowds at the malls. I guess we could do a museum.
It is snowing a little here and the ground is dusted white. In the past I would put up Christmas decs. today. Last year was a pretty bad Christmas and I put off decorating. I won't be doing it today, but I know it is important to do them for me and the girls. I don't know if I should do it all w/out H or try to include him. Usually he wasn't really around when we decorated. Any input?
I am waiting to see how much we see or hear from H today. (I'm worried that my asking about what he said to his mom will set us back some.) H is off work and the girls and I are off of school. I should probably take them somewhere today for the sake of GAL. I'm sure the movies will be swamped and I don't feel like fighting the crowds at the malls. I guess we could do a museum.
Same here - Not really sure what to expect from W today. We're doing dinner, but whos if she'll call during the day or whatever...
D and I are going shopping this afternoon, just for fun. Sure, it'll be totally insane, but it's not like I'm rushing or something
Originally Posted By: lizzy
It is snowing a little here and the ground is dusted white. In the past I would put up Christmas decs. today. Last year was a pretty bad Christmas and I put off decorating. I won't be doing it today, but I know it is important to do them for me and the girls. I don't know if I should do it all w/out H or try to include him. Usually he wasn't really around when we decorated. Any input?
I'd just start doing it, and if he's around when it's happen then great, otherwise he misses out. I'm sure the D's would love to start putting up decorations and stuff. I wouldn't go out of your way to include H if he didn't do it with you in the past.
I am waiting to see how much we see or hear from H today. (I'm worried that my asking about what he said to his mom will set us back some.) H is off work and the girls and I are off of school. I should probably take them somewhere today for the sake of GAL. I'm sure the movies will be swamped and I don't feel like fighting the crowds at the malls. I guess we could do a museum. 