Short - I wouldn't disagree with anything you said in either of those posts.
I think the LBS also move on because we aren't as intrinsically damaged as teh MLCer. We are hurt and shocked, but we have the capacity to recover, eventually. And we also know we haven't done something appalling to our family.
thanks for stopping by angela! this has been a great thread by the way.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
"And we also know we haven't done something appalling to our family."
Good point. I am not sure my H sees it that way, or if he ever will. I know he feels guilt or shame as he can't talk about what happened yet without showing it. I am not sure how he will get past that. He has moved a bit past the.. I just need to be me.. stage, where he justified or blamed me for everything. But the next step, I don't know.
angelica Yep we all have this problem (why what happen) to some degree. sometimes I wonder if we don't stop treating our "best friend" S as our "best friend". some times problems pile up and no one taught either of us the best way to communicate during such stressful times. then some times its about MLC. Reflect on why or what you two did when became M.? Now I am on these boards I still make biggie mistakes with H. Believe in yourself and let yourself grow. YOU are Not a Dork. BTW, if your lives became borring then unbore your life and H. will notice. I have to keep reminding myself babysteps.
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
angelica Yep we all have this problem (why what happen) to some degree. sometimes I wonder if we don't stop treating our "best friend" S as our "best friend". some times problems pile up and no one taught either of us the best way to communicate during such stressful times. then some times its about MLC. Reflect on why or what you two did when became M.? Now I am on these boards I still make biggie mistakes with H. Believe in yourself and let yourself grow. YOU are Not a Dork. BTW, if your lives became borring then unbore your life and H. will notice. I have to keep reminding myself babysteps.
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
My email is not working!! I keep getting an error 999 and it tells me to try back later! It's not my computer as it did the same at work the other day.
I have written you 3 times....
I don't understand why it's doing it...or how to fix it
I have not forgotten you sweetie......I have lots to tell
LOVE YOU!
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
i have been away from the boards but it sounds as if some of you are having positive interactions with your WA's. My wish for the holidays is that all of you get your spouses back for Christmas or at least evidence that it will happen eventually. I love you all and miss chatting with you all but I had to separate myself so that I wasn't focusing on my H so much.
You are all in my prayers.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Sending you love ANewMe !! I've missed you and wondered where you were.....sounds like you are out GAL ! Well done, it's good to be off the boards sometimes....take care sweety ! xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
