Please have patience --- your husband has no idea what is happening to him --- he is in a different stage in his life --- he does not comprehend reality --- YOU HAVE TO BE THE ADULT IN YOUR HOUSE --- trust me ----for me -this nightmare started a year ago and I have educated myself and my children on mlc (D19, S15, H49.currently 12 years old....he comes & goes... wears A&F, American Eagle, Urban Outfitter clothes.... I have asked my children not to make fun of him & to take care of him because he has no idea what he is doing & how ridiculous he looks). Today I spent THANKSGIVING on my own --- I sent my children over to H(they have more sense then he does..... I asked them to take care of him and make him happy) I have learnt to step back & watch his behaviour.... it is amazing.....by not retaliating I have observed my husband as 5-15 years over the past year. My initial anger has now turned to empathy - I cannot help H except to be patient & kind to him..... no matter how mean he is to me.... I have come to realise that he is not angry with me........ I suspect because of MLC he is re-living a period in his life which was blocked out because it was so painful....It is important for him to go back to that time in order to heal himself...... I have no doubt that he will get through this .....I have zero expectations.....I am looking at this bizarre behaviour for another 2 years..... I am focusing on me and treating this as a long vacation. My daughter asked me why I tolerate his behaviour....she too gets fed up with his him --- I in turn asked her if she would abandon her dad if he had Alzeimerss????
