TLC???

[JennyF]

Thanks for the advice on the lawyer...I think it's time to bite the bullet and retain one.

My personal problem right now is that I just had a baby 5 weeks ago and the bomb was dropped 11 weeks ago...so emotionally and hormonally I'm all over the map so I don't feel I'm in a place to be making serious financial decisions like selling the house while I'm on maternity leave(in Canada we get a year off with about 1/3 of my pay).

See...a reasonable person with morals (like the man I married) would be able to see this and would understand where I'm coming from. But not the monster he's turned into. When he first dropped the bomb he was telling me and everyone else that he wasn't going to pursue the R w/ OW and that he was going to focus on taking care of his family. He was going to do what he had to be here for the kids and for me. I believe this would go along with he could still the light at the end of the tunnel at this point. But every two weeks he seems to get further and further into the darkness and is more and more firm about his decison. Not to mention the R w/ OW (which was over when bomb dropped) has progressed and now he is talking about 'maybe' buying a house w/ her. So that explains the rush to sell the house.


He's being EXTREMELY cold and angry with me. Again, this is so unlike him. I think that seeing me is what is making him angrier and angrier. He wants me out of the picture and fast. It's killing me to see him look at me the way he does and know that he has so much pent up anger in there and it's ALL directed at me. I know it's not my fault and I know it's misdirected...but I've got to have pretty thick skin to deal with this especially given the circumstances.

He's taking D on Sunday...I need to have the conversation with him where I say I don't want her meeting OW...any advice on how to best go about this and defend my position if he pushes. I know it is not best for her, but he has this way of ALWAYS saying "the kids will be fine".

I know today is Thanksgiving in the US so it may be why there aren't many people posting, but I appreciate any feedback I can get.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!!
J~