Thanks Snodderly, I hope that he finds his way back. He is so out there:
Thanksgiving started in the middle of the night when I got up and saw a tm from H thanking me for agreeing to come to dinner and bringing the kids. I did not respond.
H called arrived at the house this morning with coffee and was all happy, happy. Far cry from him earlier this week. Man is he bi-polar or what? He watched tv while we all got ready and I did d12's hair. She had her usual fit (which has been a constant lately) and I was glad he got to see the way she acts boldly to me.
Anyway, off to sil's. Seperate cars. I got there and said hello to all and headed down to the playroom to watch football with bil's, nephews and s15. S15 truely enjoyed himself. I love football and everyone knows this so it is not unusual for me to do this. MIL was cold to me. Didn't say too much. Whatever.
Dinner was fine. After dinner we headed back down to watch tv while h's sisters and mother were upstairs. H followed us down this time. I tried to keep a safe distance....not because I am angry but to show him that I am not going to fall for anything anymore. I need to distance myself a little. You are right SNodderly, I will stay out of his drama and maybe that will help..maybe not.
I watched H as he watched me and s15 interact with nieces, nephews, bils....we had a good time. I could feel H's eyes on me and then on s15 back and forth the whole time.
Anyway, the party was breaking up and the kids and I got in the car to leave. Who knows where H was going. I thought he would show up here at some point but perhaps he ran to MOW. He did send a tm again thanking me for coming. He said how nice it was to see s15, hear his voice, watch him eat.
S15 was on his best behavior. He didn't really speak to H but didn't exit the room when h entered.
Hard to believe that H just can't figure this out. If he wants me and the kids...he can come home. Obviously MOW has won his heart because I just can't imagine ever being apart from the kids like this.
One more thing. Was discussing a few dates with h (monday appts. that d12 has coming up that he will take her too). There is one on Jan 7 that he needs to change the time of an appt. he has to take her. I think these are his counseling appts. He must have set them up for monday's in the future.
Not sure what H and C will resolve. Snodderly, does counseling help these MLCers or do they try to validate what they are doing to the C. I have a call in to my IC to see if she knows the person h is going to (small town so she probably does). I am not being nosy, just want to know if he is sharp enough to see through h and his act.
Off to look at the sale fliers with d12 and cuddle with a movie.
Snodderly, and everyone, hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving despite the madness going on in our lives. I feel truly blessed to have found this forum, for my children, my dad, my pup who has made a miraculous recovery.....and yes, in a way, for H.
Snodderly....hooe you and your family enjoyed the holiday and your dad is making strides in his recovery. I pray for him every day.
