Today is Thanksgiving and I am wondering how you are making it through the day.

I thought of something else and better jot it down or I'll forget it. This may sound silly, but some C suggest doing it, so try it out and see if it helps you. Every morning take a few moments (even if it is just when you are in the bathroom) to talk to yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a good positive talk. The more you reinforce belief in yourself the better you will become. Even if you don't think you can do certain things or you don't think you ARE certain things right now.....positive belief can be very powerful. If we start practicing or acting as if we are that person we would like to be then one day we will discover that we indeed have truly developed into that very person. A reporter asked Carey Grant, the great movie star of years gone by, how he got to be such a sexy lady's man. To make a long story short....that is what Carey did every day....he got up and pretended all day that he was the best looking most debonair actor in Hollywood. Sure enough, he was!

So, I hope you will do that also. If you need confidence, tell yourself that you are a confident woman and can handle anything that life throws at you today. If you are timid, tell yourself that you are not afraid or shy and that you will look people right in the eye when you talk and hold your head up high as you walk. Don't feel petty while your pregnant? Act it anyway. Some people think women are their most attractive when they are pregnant. I could go on for hours with this kind of stuff, but you get the idea. Self talk is good therapy as long as you build yourself up and don't ever, ever put yourself down. I got real bad about calling myself names and putting myself down. I got in pretty bad shape and had nobody to blame but me. Oh there was a cohort at work that was making my life miserable, but I just added to what she was trying to do buy becoming my own worst enemy. So, it can work both ways. You need to be your best friend! There were times that I hated myself so badly, and the bad thing is....you can't get away from yourself. So, we have to learn to like ourselves before anyone else can like us. If there is something we can change...then change it, if not...then learn to accept it.

I will be anxious to hear from you, so hope you will contact me soon. Take care.

Sandi2

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!