The boards tend to be slow on holidays- hang in there, you will get replies. Also, posting on other threads you can relate to helps establish connections with other DBers.
Your H does sound like he is a classic MLCer.
I believe you will find reading the first few threads in the MLC forum, including MLC resources and MLC successes, to give you a lot of very helpful information and hope. (There are also a lot of reconciliations in the making posted in the "Piecing" forum.)
I had to change my name recently, but I have been here a long time- the support will be amazing for you if you decide to hang in there for the long haul. Unfortunately, it often takes many months or even several years for a WAS to come back to the marriage. If you believe in your connection with all your heart, again, there is plenty of hope. You have noted yourself that your H is ambivalent- I have seen much worse situations- with WAs with seemingly no ambivalence at all- where the WAS eventually comes home- sometimes even after divorce.
Women whose Hs came home that I can think of right away that are still on the board include imLIN, yellowrose, soxfan2007, Rollercoasterider, and brandnewday. I think it will give you great hope to read all their threads. Here is a link to soxfan's latest:
Rollercoasterider writes a lot of very useful info on MLC- has obviously studied it extensively. I believe she (generously) posts mostly on other's threads- here is a link to a recent post of hers- you can find her others by clicking on her name and then "View Posts".
And do check out brandnewday's story- her H was a real doozy! For an agonizingly long time... (Now home and things going great...)
As you will read everywhere and others will tell you: right now, despite the terrible pain, the way to survive this is to try as best you can to detach from what he is doing right now, while being as loving and respectful to him as you can at the same time- not an easy task. And most importantly, you must do your best to take care of yourself through this difficult time, including taking a good, long, hard look at things you could have done differently and more lovingly in the M. Not always, but usually the LBS made a lot of mistakes also.
