At that rate let it die a "natural death". (ie time and lack of discussion). Hopefully OW will move on and H will continue to improve. At that point OW will not have much appeal any more. Good luck.
Red--you bet we understand each other. I think you're right about just letting time work its wonders.
Phoenix--I appreciate your perspective and I'm pretty sure I can let it die...just hope H will.
Peaceful--I'm fuzzy on boundaries, but this one (having anything to do with OW) feels pretty natural to me. I need to work more on defining my boundaries, because it seems that when we hit one, it often falls in light of the choice presented: is this boundary worth throwing my M away for? So maybe I need to dig a bit deeper to find the truth behind my boundaries and come up with ideas on how to keep them firm. That makes little sense to me...hope it does to you.
Cat--MWAH! Thanks for being throwing in your 2 cents.
So, we've been home for a few days. We had a very nice Thanksgiving with my family, things with H are really good. My love to all of you--I hope the remainder of your weekend brings good things.
Boundaries are hard.... once you set them, you have to follow through them (at least the ones you communicate to yoru H). So yes, you need to figure out what you absolutely cannot live with and what you can live with. And there is your line in the sand.
Anyway, I'm glad you had a nice Thanksgiving and that you're feeling good about things with your H.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Hi Aud! Just catching up on your sitch. Been working, and very busy at home, with H away during the week. So, not many chances to get on the BB. However, I finished my month-long assignment yesterday, so at home cleaning today.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hey BeingMe--so nice to hear from you! I'm glad you're keeping busy...are you enjoying your job? I hope all is okay with H being away. I know it's nothing strange for you, but it does bring its own challenges to be apart.
Glad to hear you are enjoying those messages Phoenix. I need to dig them back out and listen again. Perspective and inspiration...they help a lot.
I'm so grateful to be able to say that things are going really well here. I need to work a little more on not allowing the past to sneak up on me, and a lot more on bringing the Spirit into our home...letting it work the miracles I know it can if I will just be patient and keep my eyes on the goal.
I need to work a little more on not allowing the past to sneak up on me, and a lot more on bringing the Spirit into our home...letting it work the miracles I know it can if I will just be patient and keep my eyes on the goal.
You said it, girl!
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
