Back at DB/new marriage new WAW

[dh4320]

Well today i agreed to let my wife spend time with the kids at the house with a mutual third party. Our attorneys were negotiating it until 11 PM last night(that will hurt the checkbook a bit) at first my attorney called me and stated her attorney called him and said she wanted to see the kids. At first i said no, but then i thought about it, my first response was to hurt her, then i figured i need to be reasonable it would show that i am not out to get her, and also in the courts eyes as well that i am not out to get her. I was very calm and relaxed she sat in her car, a picked our 2 1/2 year old son up pointed at her and said look its mommy and he waved, she started to cry. The house is cleaner than its ever been, i have removed everything that states my wife lives here(probably not in the DB code) but it feels better when i am there with the kids. Sometimes i feel that I am DBing well, and other times I feel i need to be firm and let her know i am not going to be a whipping boy. My wife is very stubborn and head strong(she is a woman)and always wants her way. I feel good today, we are a long way away from reconciliation, my attorney states that i have to back off from her, i can not show any signs that i want to reconcile because the judge will think i am using the court order as a way to get my wife back??? what do you guys think.