I think today's going to be harder than I thought last night; my H and I and our sons & my parents had a good dinner at a local restaurant, and everything went fine. Today, I'm taking my sons to my parents' house for dinner and then the boys are going with H to a hockey game. Fine, ok, everything's simple...but those ol' memories insist on cropping up.
To add to the emotional baggage, a friend of ours died in a freak accident on Monday and his visitation is today. I keep thinking about his widow and her kids (they were only in their late 30's and their kids are young) and how that would be - to have my H suddenly dead - and I wonder how much harder that would be than when H suddenly walked out last January. On a really insensitive note, I think that at least if H had died, I'd have had insurance money to pay things off . Anyway, one more complicated emotional thing to do today.
OK, so I do have a question: How many of you who are separated have a legal separation agreement written up and how many are just "trial" separating? We haven't done anything legal, and I keep wondering if there's any reason we should. We have dissolved a small moneymarket account and are using that money to take out some of the high interest debt - and we keep sharing the payment load for other bills. So far we are cooperating fine, so I wonder if there's any other reason than financial ones to get a legal separation agreement?
Thanks all, and I hope you are finding today easier than me... A
. Anyway, one more complicated emotional thing to do today.