Still trying - Not very well

[limbo]

Thanks all!

I have realized something, or a few things about me and how I am looking at this whole thing.
H and I both realized yesterday that we seemed to have lost our connection...and was terrified, immediately went to the marriage is over.
However H didn't see that way, he just sees it as a minor bump, like alot of other bumps we have had, and we will get past it.

So I guess after everything that has happened, I just see it as the worst case, and I have to stop doing that, we now have tools and we need to use them, which we did, I was able to tell H what I think is the problem, we seem to be going back to our old ways more and more, he sits downstairs and I sit upstairs, and we don't talk for hours. And I feel like I make the effort, I will go down and sit with him. Or at least I used to, whereas he didn't do anything. He says he realizes that there is nothing stopping him coming up and sitting with me, and will try and do it more. So this is a big step for us.
We went to our first Core meeting with retro last night, and it was good, I think we will enjoy going, its a smaller group, and is alittle bit more intimate, and you share alittle bit more.
So it seems another crisis adverted!!