My first thread locked up as I was expecting this week. H and I didn't talk much when I got home last night even though he hung around for about half an hour. I would have expected him to have his things packed for the night and ready to head out the door as I came in. I hope that means his anxiety is easing up. When he left he told D10 he doesn't know when he will see her. He doesn't need to stop by this morning because of no school.
I noticed H was looking at cars online last night and left a paper about deals on the type I have. H bought a luxury car for me 5 years ago and it will be paid for in Dec. It is no longer under warrenty and will start needing repairs. I don't know if he is just trying to set me up in a more dependable car. I don't need a big payment if things become permanent.
Ds and I have plans w/ my best friends today. It will be the first I have seen them since I told them about the S last week. I have only talked to the one about what is happening so I'm sure I'll have to fill them in. We are also getting haircuts. I was thinking about letting mine grow out because H likes it long. I don't like it long though so I feel like cutting it how I want.
Since I was locked out before I started this thread, I attempted to put a link to my first thread. Not sure if it will work
Brit, As of now my H is taking the girls to his parents for Thanksgiving. H wanted me to take them but I said it is his family and I thought he should. H still hasn't told his parents about the S. I told H I didn't feel like going and pretending and he said he understood. Not sure what he understood though. Is it he doesn't want to pretend either? D10 asked me about Thanksgiving on Monday and I told her H was taking her and sis to grandma's. She freaked out about me not going. I said we need to see what it is like. D said she wasn't going if I don't. I calmed her down, but H may be in for some drama tomorrow. I wonder if I should just give in and go. I also wonder what H will tell his family if I'm not there.
Brit, As of now my H is taking the girls to his parents for Thanksgiving. H wanted me to take them but I said it is his family and I thought he should. H still hasn't told his parents about the S. I told H I didn't feel like going and pretending and he said he understood. Not sure what he understood though. Is it he doesn't want to pretend either? D10 asked me about Thanksgiving on Monday and I told her H was taking her and sis to grandma's. She freaked out about me not going. I said we need to see what it is like. D said she wasn't going if I don't. I calmed her down, but H may be in for some drama tomorrow. I wonder if I should just give in and go. I also wonder what H will tell his family if I'm not there.
Sounds like going to TG with them would be less stressful for everyone involved. You don't have to play happy families, but at least it would make the D's happy to have you both there. You're about as separated as I am - Yeah, they don't sleep in the same bed, but they hang around like they're stapled to your butt...
If you feel up to going, I'd just go and have fun. Maybe it will be a good experience for you both
Brit, As of now my H is taking the girls to his parents for Thanksgiving. H wanted me to take them but I said it is his family and I thought he should. H still hasn't told his parents about the S. I told H I didn't feel like going and pretending and he said he understood. Not sure what he understood though. Is it he doesn't want to pretend either? D10 asked me about Thanksgiving on Monday and I told her H was taking her and sis to grandma's. She freaked out about me not going. I said we need to see what it is like. D said she wasn't going if I don't. I calmed her down, but H may be in for some drama tomorrow. I wonder if I should just give in and go. I also wonder what H will tell his family if I'm not there.
Sounds like going to TG with them would be less stressful for everyone involved. You don't have to play happy families, but at least it would make the D's happy to have you both there. You're about as separated as I am - Yeah, they don't sleep in the same bed, but they hang around like they're stapled to your butt...
If you feel up to going, I'd just go and have fun. Maybe it will be a good experience for you both
I don't think I will be going. I don't think it is going to be a fun time. H's sister in-law is a big B. His mom and aunt don't always get along. H doesn't want to go himself. I want to be with Ds, but I think that H needs to experience the day without me.
Today was an interesting day. H called about 10 to talk to the girls and then me. I reminded him off our plans for the day and told him we would be leaving the house in an hour our so. H called an hour later to ask if his mom was working today. Told him probably. H was wondering if she needed the turkey he got from work. I said she probably got one already, but he could call her.
Girls and I went to friends house. I filled my four friends in on the sitch. Lots of sympathy and support so that felt good. Kept telling them I'm responsible too. Anyway we had a great lunch, drinks and lots of laughs.
H called as we were on our way to the salon for our hair appts. Wanted to tell me there is a football game in town on Sun. (He has 4 season tickets.) He was asking about my plans for the day. Silly me, I thought he was going to ask if I wanted to go with him. I guess he just wanted to know if I would have the girls on Sun. He knew I made some plans for Sat. w/ girls and thought he wouldn't be able to spend time w/ them that day. Told him that isn't until 7:00 so he can spend the day with them. Told H I would call him on the way home if he wanted and he said ok.
Called H as we were headed out and he didn't answer. He called back about 5 min. later and said he was almost to the house to get things for tomorrow. I said we would be there soon. H called again before we got there to say he was running to his friend's house but would be right back.
I started to make pasta for the girls and me. We were starting to eat just as H got to the house. H started to eat some chips. Told him there was enough pasta for him if he wanted some. It was something I didn't think he would want, but he got up and got some. Then he thanked me as if he was surprised that I offered it to him. I don't get why he thinks that way. I'm glad I offered though and he ended up staying around for half an hour or more. He was actually initiating conversation w/ the girls and me.
Before he left H asked if I had a new shirt on. That was odd because I have bought a lot of new clothes the past few months and he hasn't commented on any. This shirt was one I bought in the spring and have worn many times. Maybe this is the first he has looked at me in a long time. I'm glad I took the time to make myself look decent before he got home. I put on jammies shortly after he left to be comfy. I try not to wear them when he is around because I don't want to look frumpy and depressed.
Before H left he asked if he could come by early in the morning. (His mom is eating at 1:00.) I said of course. I guess I'll have to make myself look like a hottie in the morning.
Before he left H asked if I had a new shirt on. That was odd because I have bought a lot of new clothes the past few months and he hasn't commented on any. This shirt was one I bought in the spring and have worn many times. Maybe this is the first he has looked at me in a long time. I'm glad I took the time to make myself look decent before he got home. I put on jammies shortly after he left to be comfy. I try not to wear them when he is around because I don't want to look frumpy and depressed.
You'd be surprised how appealing a girl can look in jammies - I know my wife looks good wearing jammies
Sounds like he's starting to pay attention to you, which is great! It's funny that he keeps staying for dinner... I wonder what he'd do if you didn't have enough food one night. It's weird how dependent on you he seems - I wonder what a taste of no Lizzy for a while would be for him....
Before he left H asked if I had a new shirt on. That was odd because I have bought a lot of new clothes the past few months and he hasn't commented on any. This shirt was one I bought in the spring and have worn many times. Maybe this is the first he has looked at me in a long time. I'm glad I took the time to make myself look decent before he got home. I put on jammies shortly after he left to be comfy. I try not to wear them when he is around because I don't want to look frumpy and depressed.
You'd be surprised how appealing a girl can look in jammies - I know my wife looks good wearing jammies
Sounds like he's starting to pay attention to you, which is great! It's funny that he keeps staying for dinner... I wonder what he'd do if you didn't have enough food one night. It's weird how dependent on you he seems - I wonder what a taste of no Lizzy for a while would be for him....
I wonder the same Brit. He didn't seem to miss me when he went to CA earlier in the month. I think going black would be a great idea, but not really possible right now. H does have a trip coming up to DC next weekend, so at least he won't be seeing me for a few days. I don't know if EA1 will be on the trip. I don't know anything about what is going on w/ the EAs since I have stopped my snooping.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone. I had a little drama here last night. The girls aren't happy that I am not going to grandma's w/ them. D15 got mad and is worried about what will be said there. D10 just wants to be together as a family. Of course they didn't want to call their dad to talk to him about it.
I don't know if EA1 will be on the trip. I don't know anything about what is going on w/ the EAs since I have stopped my snooping.
It doesn't really matter if they are going or not. He has ample opportunity to spend time with them since you separated, and it doesn't seem like he does a whole lot of that.
I get the impression that both your H and my W are perfecting the art of fence sitting.
My first thread locked up as I was expecting this week. H and I didn't talk much when I got home last night even though he hung around for about half an hour. I would have expected him to have his things packed for the night and ready to head out the door as I came in. I hope that means his anxiety is easing up. When he left he told D10 he doesn't know when he will see her. He doesn't need to stop by this morning because of no school. 
