No, it's not wrong. She needs to see what she has gotten herself into and how it's going to be from now on if she doesn't come back. Obviously, you don't want her coming back just b/c she is financially strained, however, she needs to start seeing reality!

Hang in there & just continue to work on YOU!

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10