Hey, girl, let me tell you that not only does it sound like you are doing great and will be wonderful in the end no matter what happens, but what you have written will help a ton of others here!
Actually what you are doing and how you are feeling right now sounds like true DB'ing to me! You have now reached the ULTIMATE DETACHMENT which is what we are supposed to do, right?
That's kind of the bottom line here -- we're supposed to be truly happy w/ ourselves and our lives w/ or w/out our spouse and let them be free to figure things out on their own and it's like that saying "let them go free & if they come back it was meant to be" or however that goes. They finally see what they are throwing away. Unfortunately, sometimes by that time, it's too late. They've done so much damage, however, at that point is when we can begin to build a new R/M b/c the old one is dead and was probably not good anyway & that's how we came to be here.
Anyway, kind of rambling, but I just wanted to say that you sound wonderful and I'm so glad that you have gotten to this good place w/in YOURSELF. Truly an inspiration. I've been kind of down the last week or so and this is where I need to get!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
