Big Tuna: Nice to hear from you. Have you updated your thread? I've been wondering what's been happening with you. Sorry to hear you're havin' a hard time of it.
Originally Posted By: big_tuna
...we have been separated 13 months and divorced for 7 but i still keep hoping for a miracle...
As others can attest, anything is possible...even a miracle. However, as I'm sure you already realize, the odds are not in your favor.
Originally Posted By: alamogirl
I read in the Divorce Remedy book that sometimes, the WAS ends up regretting their decision to end the marriage. ...there are times I wish my ex would call me and tell me what a big mistake he made.
It's true (and I know of a few situations where that has happened). The problem is, it most often happens years down the road after everyone has moved on and the WAS has learned a few life lessons the hard way (which usually takes some time). In addition, it is often said to others, not to the LBS (a pride thing for the WAS), so your hope is...sadly...unlikely to be fulfilled.
As for your sitch BT, I suspect it is the same. My guess is that your WAW will likely regret her choices at some point, but I don't think that's happening now (unless she's said something you haven't shared). Without knowing any more than I do (and assuming she's not involved with someone else right now), I wonder if she's simply around whenever it's convenient for her and she has nowhere else to go.
Originally Posted By: alamogirl
Even though I still love him, I've decided to move on, and it actually feels good. I'm doing well. I have a good secure job. I also have a good support system...friends and family. I don't date, and I've gotten so bad at flirting...YIKES!
I'm glad to hear you're doing well. I'm not technically out of the M yet so I'm not even contemplating dating...but I can appreciate your concern. I'm not even sure I know how to flirt anymore (I haven't done it in nearly 15 years)
