What does my XW Want?

[lushmd]

But the very things that are attractive also means that there are things that will turn us off later. For example, I am a logical organized guy. I am attracted to women who are more open ended and care-free. But after I get to know them their lack of logic and organization becomes a negative.

I completely understand/relate to this statement. Many of the very same carefree/emotional/passionate qualities that made time with my wife a wonderful experience when we were dating/not living together led to friction when we were living together (well, in addition to the third year of med school). Having said that, I believe that life is largely a question of balance (work/play, logic/emotion, serious/playful, etc...): perhaps I need to incorporate more of these carefree attitudes/attributes into myself such that I can feel more comfortable with a more balanced mate (i.e. no need for extreme opposites)...