Mopsey, Your h is in a snit because he's been put on notice about getting counseling. We don't know exactly what went on at his family's house about this. Counseling isn't something he really wants to do and that's why he's acting the way he is.
Also, you have to remember, you aren't paying as much attention to his drama as you once were. He's sensing that and it's upsetting him to know that you aren't being sucked into his drama. He knows that your attention is being turned elsewhere. This is good. He's starting to see that life does go on and doesn't not revolve around him and his drama.
As for his family, be thankful they've stepped up to the plate and have given him names of counselors. They know something is wrong and who knows, they may be the ones to reach him and make him see the light a bit. Time will tell.
As for Thanksgiving, enjoy the holiday with your family. I do hope that your holiday is a blessed and happy one. Do not allow your h to spoil the day for you and your children. He's the one that chose to walk, therefore, he's the one that has to find a way back to you and yours.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
