Thank you, RCR - I am standing ... I am not pushing to change or quit ... but you are right that I am not a Covenant Keeper; I was raised in the Presbyterian Church with a mother who is an ordained minister. That good ol' Calvinist practicality leads me to find prayer and Buddhist meditation both equally important during this time.
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I define moving on as getting a life and being happy with my Self...while Standing. ... Hope is not something to which you have to cling. It will still be there when you Let Go.
This is what I feel. I am getting a life, I am creating ways to live my future if my h returns or not -- ie: I am growing from being that 50% person I had allowed myself to become to the 100% person I know I can and need to be in order to be a healthy partner -- but I am not encouraging my husband's wish for divorce. I have let go, I think, at least today (my ability to do that seems to come and go), but I have not abandoned hope even if I recognize mere willing this marriage to survive will not make it so.
One hope I have is that in the midst of all of this discussion, w8ing and others are finding something they each can take away. Like you, RCR, I try not to expect anyone to commit completely to what I have found as the way to survive this painful journey.
And with that, I am going to meet my family (including my WAH!) at a restaurant tonight for a hopefully ( ) less stressful Thanksgiving. Please send good thoughts and prayers for a successful and indigestion-free meal!
) less stressful Thanksgiving. Please send good thoughts and prayers for a successful and indigestion-free meal! 
