Why can't I do this....

[houndfan]

It just keeps coming....

In what was suppose to be a quick call (her words) she called to talk to me about her internet issues. It was fixed and now broken again, how can she run her biz etc. She asked if I could help her plan meals for the fam for the next 2 weeks even though I am not allowed to eat there.

So, I pulled a 180 - what would you like to eat don't worry about the boys, what would W like. She told me a few things, and I said you should buy for those meals. "But you guys won't eat them." It does not matter, I said you deserve to eat what you like. So we talked about the final 4 meals and she was excited to be planning a menu that was more for her than us. At one point she said that it is so hard to cook for her and hte boys, I did not respond.

Then she asked me if I think that I needed my allotment of $ for the next two weeks and I did not cave. I explained that yes I did because I need to eat and live my life etc. She did not argue, just tried to explain that we may not be able to pay something because of the money. I wanted to scream THIS IS YOUR CHOICE, but I bit my tongue because I know that she is really struggling with this as much as I.

Then I told her about my plans for Saturday with the boys, because some of the activities have changed. The guy I am hanging out with asked if his wife could join mine for the girls night out. So I asked her. She responded with "No, this is a single girls night not a married Christian girls night." I said ok, I think that would be good for you to have a night like that. She immediately said, "I am sorry it won't be that kind of night. If she wants to come she can." I said no, you need a night like that with your friends, and she told me she is going with her girlfriend that is basically going through the same thing as her. But she was sure several times to tell me that the night is not going to be what I think. I tried to agree and validate!

So that led to her telling me that she is not planning on picking up any guys. I said that it would not matter to me either way. I think that she needs to have that kind of night and it would be fun so she should just go and have a great time regardless of what happens. I could hear the gears in her head spinning on that one!

She then said that she never wants another man unless it's Jim Halpert. I laughed at that one....

Well then she asked me why I wanted to cook TG dinner with her. Before I could answer she said is it because I won't be around any more and you want to learn how to make the dinner? I said it doesn't make a difference if you will be around anymore or not, I want to learn how to make it because I enjoy cooking and think that in the future that it is not fair that I sit on my butt and watch football all day while the women (note that I said women) that I love have to cook all day and that I think that it would be nice to learn something helpful.

Again, no response from her at all. But this again was a huge 180 for me cause I usually do not want anything to do with this type of stuff.

So I then said I need to run and she asked why I am blowing her off. I said that I am trying to insure that I give her space and am not sure what I am suppose to do. I got a nice thank you and then some more conversation......

Hmmmmm.... I guess I can chalk this up to a good approach like my iron shot on 17 a few weeks ago.