Yeah, same house. At one point last spring I snooped and learned she had been just biding her time until the kids got out of school and then she was out. I knew when she was leaving, where she was going and who she wanted as her OM.
It took 3 months for her to notice my changes, 2 months of her being angry at my changes, then S L O W L Y she started to soften. Some time in June she just said, she didn't see herself leaving. Then a week later the OM came up and she was like, I'm losing interest. I said, what? Just two months ago you were gonna break up our family to explore real love with him. She just shrugged and said, "Eh, I don't feel that way anymore." Just like that! After that nothing seemed to happen until the end of August, then like a switch flipped or something and she started warming at a good pace. I just got off the phone with her, she gave me an unsolicited ILY.
I would say I am in my 14th month of DBing. I had three months from the time I discovered her plan till when she actually planned on leaving. Those three month are kind of where you are at now I guess.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
