Hard to function after the divorce...

[Dom R]

thanks to alamogirl for the female validation
now to reply to AK,

And lastly, is there a large percentage of people that reconcile with their ex after a divorce?

There is a noticable percentage. "large" is irrelevant. What is surprising to me personally, is that it isnt zero.
The biggest anti-factor, is that one party gets remarried, so it becomes impossible.

What is even more remarkable (if not just plain twisted! is when sometimes, BOTH parties get married to someone else... but eventually, years later, end up marrying each other again


So, it is certainly a possibility for you, if you choose it.
What is even more remarkable, is the accounts of people who have decided to "give it another try", even when things were relatively nasty around the time of the divorce.

In your situation, seems like most of the work is "done" already.

You like the way she is (?)
She likes the way you are now.

Heck, she's even made wistful noises about you, and her, and marriage.

"she said she wished she could have had that influence on me when we were married. "

She may not directly say, "I want to give things another try between us".

But that quote from her right there, says that she's been thinking that sort of thing, at least indirectly.


PS: 10 page letters, arent usually taken seriously.
thats probably why you didnt get a response. waaay too much.



If you want to talk about what and how, for reconcilingn with your wife, then i suggest you start out by describing, in detail, what was wrong with your marriage. from BOTH sides.

Why she wanted a divorce, why you just gave it to her, and how you think you both are possibly different people now.

Plus also, what you think a "good marriage" would look like between you both, in contrast to what you used to have together.