Sally, I was thinking about you and how brave you are to use your real name and how I wish you knew me and my real name! I am thinking about you all the time, especially when I am doing the mom at home thing. I think I could be so much better at this time and I feel selfish as if GAL is about spending time away from them instead of with them. Before it was all about them and spending every minute together.
Neph, I really do want to do Thanksgiving at home. My family just does not get that but my D's TH agreed that it would be very good for us to have our own small dinner as a new family together. Especially if it is seen as a goal for me to be independent and to start new traditions. Funny, my H asked what we were doing for Thanksgiving and I just replied, "Going to my Brother's". And that was it. Good.
My brother and mother think it is such a waste of time and money for me to cook for my own family but I kind of feel like a third wheel in this sitch. Never before, just now. People just do not get that when a married mom goes out and does things alone it is by choice but when a single mom HAS to to everything by herself it feels different. It can feel anywhere from exhilarating and independent to lonely and pathetic.. So picturing me and my kids sitting single at my bro's house is just not as empowering as me cooking and preparing and having a few friends over for fun. I just see it that way.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
