I won't be walking on eggshells everyday waiting for him to erupt because of a toothpaste smudge on the bathroom counter, or a goldfish cracker on the floor of the car.
Ugh. He seriously does have anger management problems.
Or bad OCD. Or both.
Does he acknowledge he has OCD? Does it manifest itself in any other areas besides being a clean-freak? (Tapping, checking, counting, germ-phobia?). Is there a family history of OCD or agoraphobia or eating disorders? Does your H have a history of recurrent strep infections?
A good book to read on the subject is The Boy Who Wouldn't Stop Washing by Rappaport.
Was your H always this way? Or is it a more recent development? Does he take any medications?
Has he ever hit you or abused you in other ways besides complaining about the house?
Please be careful - he sounds irrational and possibly dangerous.
