IMOP i think you should have told her that your sorry she felt the way she did about the dinner but, you were not going to speak in a language that did not make you feel comfortable,and that you thought it rude that she try to make you. You do what you need to though as it is your R and we are not there to know. And you are so much more patient I feel.
Have a good Holiday.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
