ILF, the OM lives 100 miles away, is M and has a D20 that apparently has emotional problems.
My W has tried several times to see him half way, as I have copies of emails that she sent directions to a hotel to him.
I also have copies of credit card statements that show that she reserved a room and was charged for it, then the next day she was refunded the charge. Can't really prove that she has seen him, but I cant believe that if she tried several times in the past, that she hasnt seen him.
When I caught her right after the bomb talking to OM openly in the kitchen, I found about 10-15 calls a day for about 5 months on her cell. She then went out and bought a new phone.
This advice was given to her by OM, b/c he also has 2 cell phones. Also, when I found the new cell in her purse, I checked the text messages and found one to OM that said cancelled room.
I cant believe that he has any intentions to D his 2nd wife and marry my W, and he is just living the high school fantasy that my W is living.
Like I have said before, W isnt going to leave her kids and all her family here to go and live with OM. His 1st wife also lives in the same community, so I just cant see a W and 2 X's living in the same town.
W has been very nice to me since the weekend, and I have been putting things together, trying to figure out her moods over the last few weeks.
My S18 is home from college for the holiday, and since then she seems very happy. Got to be empty nest.
When she is bitchy,and treats me like crap, S is not home.
Again it seems she is concerned about certain things, like she made me lunch on sunday, (but then again my S was home), came home last nite while I had lots of work to do on the laptop, and asked if I was going to eat. Wants to tell me about lots of things at work, and different things that are happening in her life.
I am trying to take this one day at a time, but I cant believe how she can turn the switch on and off at any time.
But dont you think that if she was really emotionally detached from me, she wouldnt even attempt to do some things that I consider nice? I mean, if she really wants this D, why wouldnt she be bugging the crap out of me to sign?
May be at the crest of the hill, waiting for the downward spiral.