What are you doing to yourself!!?? Please chill yourself out. Rob and I are gonna have to come out there and tie you up in a closet to protect you from yourself. You gotta stop the R talks. Do not confront her like that (Do you love some guy at work). If I were her, I would tell you yes just to spite you. Whether she loves someone else or not is not going to make you anymore or less appealing. Asking questions like those WILL make you less appealing.
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You are right.I do care about you and want to be your friend. I just don't want to be romantic. It is not what I feel and I haven't for a long time - you are right, never is probably not the right word. And I know you would do anything to please me right now.it is overwhelming for me. But it is also very frustrating.I do want space and I do need to live apart. If you won't move out, then the kids and I will and we can see how it goes. I just need my space.I feel like I can't do anything without you watching me or listening to me. And I need to talk to my friends right now and hang with them.
You are in the game. Look at the quote above. LISTEN to her. She is telling you exactly what she wants. You have road map for success, if you will follow it. She wants to leave to get away from the pressure. Stop the pressure and she might stay. You can stop the pressure today. How great is that? You could start saving your marriage today.
In all seriousness, I heard the very same things as you are hearing. THE EXACT SAME FRIGGIN' STUFF as you are hearing in the quote above. Until I listened and backed off, nothing changed. As recently as August I was told no romance, no sex, maybe ever again. Backing off was the key. Backing off kept my wife in the house. BACK OFF! You were doing SO well. Don't blow it.
Your thanksgiving script is: I am thankful that today I am able to spend time with the people I love. That's it. Don't say anything more.
Good luck. I feel like Teddy Atlas trying to get you through the 12th round. I think of you every day (in the most hetero of ways). I am with you friend. Go forth and bust...
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
