Thanks for checking my thread out and responding. A ot of us males seem to have the same problem set: not recognizing the depression thing and responding inappropriately when we did, trying to fix things, not being "emotionally available" whatever that means.....forgiving, but having spouses that are "injustice collectors"
Dave, I felt like I was driving the car to the state fair instead of you. My W. is the same way. It seems like they LOOK for reasons to be unhappy. The wrong shoes? Not fod with the milk? In the real world, that stuff is SO not important, but when your whole world is "whack-a-mole" like ours is, then you will NEVER make them happy, because they can't make THEMSELVES happy. When I described my not making my W. "happy" to a good friend of mine here in Iraq (his W. left him last year. HE raised three girls with little help from her and SHE left)he had a great line: "That sounds like an individual soldier task to me". That menas it's not your job to make her happy. Don't even try, because I have been through it, and YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN'T. Keep trying to be thoughful and helpful, take the high road, but don't be a doormat. I'll look in on you from time to time.
