on the same boat here, H sleeps in a sep room and I know it is hard. What really helped me is to undersdand this : (heard it on the radio from a writer about couples) that intimacy is meaningful when the couple has emotional intimacy first, then the physical part is an addition. So, right now, she is not feeling safe yet, on my end, H is afraid that if we start being intimate we wont' address our many issues and things won't get settled. So it is not a rejection of me as a person, but a way to not forget that we need to fix things. Prob not the best to go about fixing our M, but I have learned to respect that, it took me the past 2.5mths to stop being upset about that.
I am emotinally burnt out and should focus on myself and what I want to do. My hobbies are of no interest to me as of late.
My focus has been to much on her and no enough on me. ======================= Again, just BTDT, you must find enjoyment and happiness for YOU, so she doesn't feel pressured to be intimate. Rejection hurts, I now, but for the time being she is not ready, you are, but she is not, she will be. Hang in there, I know it is hard, but it is one step at a time.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
