Thank you sincerely for the comments. I appreciate the input and I'm thinking about everything.
I honestly don't know if I've misrepresented, but I don't THINK I'm being selfish. With that specific comment during our cabinet discussion, he took a totally happy situation and all of a sudden threw our sex life into it. It seemed out of the blue. That's a big issue we have, his negativity. I can be negative at times, but he is REALLY negative, when I think it's just out of place. He's always sort of been that way, but I can hardly take it when it involves our kids, etc.
I totally get it that the sex life being a disappointment to him is a major factor. The part where we still butt heads is that TO ME it was a pretty ok sex life, whereas he was totally disappointed most of the time. I know it's not uncommon for two people to have different ideas of what their sex life should look like, and he has always said he'd like it more than me. But, it seems like since we've had kids, when I've "mellowed" and probably become a bit more conservative, he is seeming to crave more kinkiness. So that's what has brought the issue to a real head and is causing so much conflict.
Today my daughter has started her Thanksgiving Break, so I need to go, but will definitely try to answer the rest of the ?'s above when I get a chance!
