Ouch! Thought I was so much stronger!

[Larrynarry]

I'm sure someone will weigh in.. it's close to Turkey day, so I'm sure folks are off or busy.

I had read someone that was in the anniversary scenario give their spouse a card that basically said "Even though we are not together now, those X years meant alot to me. It gave us our S/D and I will always be thankful for that"

etc.. etc..

That's probably what I will do.. Now.. I made the mistake of getting my W a card on Sweetest day (DUMB.. DUMB move) and it was a kick in the face.

I guess my suggestion would be this.. Do what you feel comfortable doing (acknowledge, don't acknowledge) but under NO circumstances have any expectations.

I guess what I'm saying is.. say/do what makes YOU feel good about the sitch and what makes YOU feel good only.

Rule #2... Expect Nothing and you won't be dissapointed when that's what you get. Plan for the worse hope for the best sort of thing.