Well, a good night overall. D3 and I played some games & then did some laundry (she's a great helper) to get ready to go to my parents tomorrow. H was good last night. He'd called twice before he got home, but I hadn't heard the phone. He got home, did a few things around the house & left, I thought to workout. He came back fairly quickly too. He got home when I was still up. I didn't push him or hover, but each question I had to ask him last night was answered, and answered very nicely. Not once was he short with me or snapped at me. H made a salad for me for lunch today and was, of course, good with D3. I had been watching a movie in the bedroom and woke up to find H next to me, my glasses (H took off for me) & the tv off.
I know that H is doing some very sh*tty things to me right now and stepping away from H's mess and working on me is what I need to do. However, I did read the 5 Love Languages and realized what I hadn't been doing for H. I believe his #1 language is Words of Affirmation. I've been trying to be more appreciative of the things that H does do for us. Telling him thank you when he does something for me or us and in his presence, telling D3 to make sure she tells daddy thank you for this or that. She's usually pretty good at that herself though. H did make a big sacrifice when he was working in his last position by staying home with D3 and working part-time at night. I appreciated everything that H did, but I don't think I voiced it enough. Maybe doing this seems odd considering how he's been, but I feel like this is something that I need to do, in addition to taking care of me. H was abrasive at first, but has been accepting my thank you's lately.
Well, time to work.
Have a great day! Gobble, Gobble!
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
