Can anyone give me some advice on what to do/say to W about our anniversary next week?

She has just told me about OM and Im unsure what to do.

Hurtin: 32
WAW: 30
D: 8
Bomb: 10/05
Sep: 12/05
Back together 8/07
Bomb (OM): 11/07
Filed for D (me): 12/07