Limbo - when I have stuff I need to sort out in my head sometimes I seem to withdraw emotionally from my H. I don't always realise I am doing it but he feels it and then pursues me. Then we just start to spiral downwards because I feel smothered and am not getting the space I need to sort my head out and he feels neglected and starts, (it feels to me), trying to control me and my actions.
Only yesterday I talked about this with my cognitive behavioural therapist and he told me that to withdraw slightly to sort one's head out was not uncommon but that I needed to let my husband know that that was what I was doing, to stop him stressing and pursuing me. I haven't brought the subject up with my husband yet but I will do so tonight. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
