Hi again ~ long time no see.

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Zu:

I told him I'd love for us to be able to think of these house things as "we" projects, not "me" projects. Anyhow, so he said that and it made me instantly excited to do them all that way! I did a little yippee dance and said "I can't wait to do it!!" He ROLLED his eyes, scoffed and said, "you mean the cabinets, not me, right?" OMG, I about died. I was actually happy that he was taking a bit of interest and showing approval of my work and I IRRITATED him? I couldn't believe it. I guess it boiled down to he was jealous. He said, "I wish I could get you that excited." That royally pissed me off and seemed very immature, so it is that he puts so much emphasis on whether or not we're doing it, then whether or not I'm "into it" then what we're doing, I just feel unless it's Olympic sex every other day, he's gonna complain.

Okay, so YOU understand how exciting it is to have 'we' projects, how incredible and happy that made you feel for him to actually want to DO a project with you... flip it around... he considers 'sex' a 'we' project (maybe you understand his excitement now). So then he makes a statement that instantly dashes your happiness... as you do to him all the time about sex... YOU are hurt and feel you have a right to be so... yet when you do it to him and he gets hurt... you call him jealous and immature???

AMEN!!! In reading through these posts, I see a good amount selfishness. JMHO for what it's worth.