Sex Addict?!

[fightingirish]

julz

sorry you are in this place.. but its a safe haven of wonderful people who will listen and offer great advice.

My stitch is somewhat similar to yours, only it was more porn lurking, but then I found out he posted a naked picture of himself on an adult web site and I accidentially found it because he recieved an email from it and I got it.

I don't think he's actuallly had contact with anyone, but I will never know. What I did with My H is I told him that I will not tolerate any of this crap, and if I was to find out again he was doing this sh$$ on line, that would be it. I have given him two chances and this is the last.

My H has a high sex drive. (im getting tired of typing that..lol).. and not that its an excuse, because it isn't, he is very irritable when he doesn't get it. Ive gotten him to tone it down a bit, but its hard sometimes.

Do not let him rope you in thinking this is your fault for one. You have to set some boundaries with him.. I don't necessarily think he's an addict, maybe borderline.. as I have done a lot of reading on the subject.. a real sex addict will have mulitple partners online and offline.. it will totally occupy him day and night.

I read the book "out of the shadows" by patrick carnes.. if you would like I can mail it to you. Send me a email at [e-mail]. Anyway also there are extremes like a said, they talk about rapists etc.. which doesn't apply here, so like I said he may be borderline.. I think my h is.

If you feel comfortable going you should go for your kiddies.. they don't know whats going on and if they can spend some time with other family that's great.

boundaries,boundaries,boundaries.. if he wants to reconcile you need to have boundaries.. and there needs to be consequences if he breaks them.

My heart breaks for you, im so sorry you are going through this especially with two little ones at home.

Take care of yourself.

tal