Dave/COG,

Thanks for the reply. We admiited a guy to the hospital here today in Iraq, who has come completely unglued over his deteriorating marriage. Yesterday was her birthday, he called and she would not even talk to him. 7000 miles from home, in Iraq. Ughh!

I can so relate, as I personally came apart in March of 2006 and very much tried to check out of life in general.

Having seen what he's going through, however, I can also see the growth that I've made. I have very much "let go" or at least I think I have, but I still have a gaping hole in my heart!. I may be alone when I get home. I pretty much have decided that I will be, but it won't be from lack of not trying to be a good husband and father.

What saddens me more than anything of course, is that my kids need to be put in this situation. Never having the joy of an intact family for any other event as long as they live. I think of the photo albums at home when we were all together, and I become furious that W. could do this to the kids! It's purely self-centered on the WAS part.