W has seen the bank and they are ok with giving her a loan, changing the mortgage to her name and doing the whole refinance & payout bit. All they need is a jointly signed document detailing the assets and the split that has been approved by a judge in a court of law.
She didn't muck around seeing the bank. After she told me this she said she was going to leave me as the beneficiary in her will till the youngest, d11, is 18! Then invited me to come with the extended family (kids, nieces & nephews, w's siblings & their spouses) to Movie World at the Gold Coast on the weekend. Lover boy must have been unavailable, I said yes it sounds like it would be great.
She also said she had another job for the next couple of weeks and can't get to see a lawyer to get the asset split document drawn up. I told her to make sure she doesn't over do it with the two jobs and that I might be able to get one written up. W sounded keen to get the split done.
I shouldn't have said I could/would get one written up and have decided not do anything to assist other than possibly sign one if she presents one.
I was thinking about her statement about her will and just thought, given that she has stated previously I will never have custody of the kids, that what she was basically saying was you can have custody of the kids over my dead body.
Went to movie world, had a great time went on most of the rides. Didn't interact with w much although we (I) drove down together.
It was good to see all the little ones having a good time and I am glad I went. I nearly didn't but I'd said I would so I did.
I didn't hang around long after we got back just said my goodbyes to the kids and left.
Phoned home yesterday and w answered the phone.
me 'Hi' w 'You want the kids?' me 'yes'
Amazing stuff.
On a brighter note d17 graduated from high school last Friday. The graduation ceremony was quite good, as I've never been to one it was a first for me. I must admit I'm quite proud of d17 (s15, d13& d11 also). She left the ceremony and headed of for a formal dinner and then schoolies at Noosa for a week. She will be studying primary teaching at QUT next year.
