P.S. FWIW, I think you'd be MUCH better off not dating for awhile. Right now, it seems to me that all you are doing is looking for a "safe cigarette" to quelch your nicotine cravings. Deny all you want, but you are looking for a fix. The first codependent guy to swing your way that is of reasonable intelligence and attractiveness is very dangerous to you. Just find yourself. Be.