No, OT...it was my hope that he would see the value in trying to work on the marriage, work on ourselves to become the people who we always wanted to be, to be the parents who our children deserved. I even told him that when I asked him to come home, it wasn't literal--it was to start the work, to go to therapy, to TRY, together. He has no interest. He has done all the thinking he wants to do. And he did it alone in his head--we just all have to deal with the decisions, with no discussion.
Rephrase--he did it along with the feedback from a girlfriend who has wanted him for years and reinforces every crappy thing that pops into his head.
No, OT, I don't want the man who he is now. But I believed in him, in the goodness within him, for so long. I remember...I am in love with a ghost.
