I don't think you're a freak. It sounds like you might have some sensory issues, especially tactile. I struggle with these sorts of issues too and sometimes they are so distracting that I find it difficult to get aroused. Strangely, though, if I start off already aroused, none of this stuff bothers me at all.
I have asked cac to shower and brush/gargle before sex (he's a smoker). We keep a tin of Altoids on the nightstand. He also dries his hair because the wet hair bothers me.
If your H's breath smells bad, tell him. If you want him to shower and brush before sex, ask him. You can't get into it if you're screwing up your face and holding your breath! When I finally decided to be honest and ask for what I needed it made a big difference. I'm discovering that honesty is truly the way to go.
